People whose practices are positive and stress-hardy exhibit a set of characteristics that enhance their coping ability.
These individuals use stress-hardy practices that shows:
A. They believe what they are doing is important.
B. They believe they have some degree of control and power over the outcome of their lives and whatever situation in which they find themselves.
C. They, also, see inevitable life changes as real opportunities rather than just their fate.
Personal practices include our body’s reaction to startle as a sense of threat or an actual threat. The threat doesn’t have to be a very big thing, just late for our appointment, movie, or date. An argument with a cohort or family.
Our personal practices release body chemicals which set-off every cell in our body.
Our total self can become involved. And some of us are constantly under stress.
The toll on our body and mind can be enormous. Our Addictions Recovery could be in jeopardy. But, our personal practices can be altered. We can change them to be less personally destructive.
Here are some positive stress-practices you can put to use toward abstinence, sobriety, and attaining some degree of serenity.
1. Visualize. When we visualize positive, pleasant, pleasing, beautiful things in our lives, our brain/minds let go soothing chemicals that counteract stress.
We can produce this physical reaction actually at will, if we are willing to learn how. Practice can really work. Relaxation techniques, for example.
2. Breathing. Several deep breaths can get you on the way to de-stressing your body. Not easy really.
Your body acts against you. Stress causes breath to become quick and shallow. Stop. Consciously breathe deep. Count to ten.
By practice and attention to your breathing you can turn off the stress-practices your body initiated. And return to a state of inner calm. Remember the Janus faces two directions.
When you breathe deep, as you take in the breath imagine your belly as a balloon slowly filling with air. Purse your lips, as you let the air out. Keep your belly relaxed as the air escapes.
3. Positive Thoughts. Your personal practices are your way to deal with threats. De-stress by thinking of positive personal good stuff. That is what is good stuff to you.
Yes, it can sound kinda simplistic. However, life is really that way. We hold in our consciousness only one thought, one idea at a time. Just don’t have any room there for negative practices.
4. Reform your Stress-Practices. Slow down. A friend said to himself in the midst of a stress storm: “Why such a hurry little man?” He stopped and changed his life.
Are you multi-tasking yourself to an early grave? Relax your body and refresh your mind. Anxiety only makes it worse. Tomorrow will come anyway.
5. Get a new Brain Recording. Change the self-talk tape running in your mental cassette. It is old stuff. Go digital with one that has positive, supportive things to say.
Take a closer look at our meditations and affirmations screens for positive supportive ideas and the words which go with them.
Raise your self esteem.
Saying such words as, I can, I deserve, I will, I am. Can be good self talk.
6. LET GO. Let go can be the best self-help there is. Let go negative stress-practices. Simply let them go.
Change what you can.Let go what you can’t change. You can learn to tell the difference.
That is what awareness is. Make a conscious, sober decision to let go things you can’t make different or better.
7. Stress-Practices Review.
Stress-Practices Review means identifying your stressors, whether from alcoholism, drug addiction, or other substance abuse or addictive behavior, and how these addictions affect your life.
You can learn ways to increase your tolerance to stress or ways to alter, avoid, or accept stressful situations. You may reduce stress symptoms or avoid them all together.
Do Everyday things get your goat? Put THEM out to pasture.
As part of our Stress-Practices Review, before we can learn to avoid or accept stress we must learn to recognize it and it’s effect on us.
When recognized we can practice self-regulating techniques, such as progressive muscle relaxation, meditation, or bio-feedback.
Stress is a complex, multifaceted, uniquely personal problem. Stress relief, stress reduction, or treatment should be tailored to you as an individual.
As said, stress is not the same for everybody. It is different for each of us. Find your personal stressors. A good place to start is our Sabotage-Stress screen on the Tab above to the left.
The bottom line. What and how you think determines in large part what and how you feel. What and how you feel colors the way you respond.
Getting control of your thoughts changes the way you feel, and getting control of your feelings alters the way you think and act.
This is at the heart of Addictions Recovery.
The resultant stress from our Stress-Practices can also flavor our lives, it is like the tension of the violin string, too little and the music is dull, raspy; too much, too tight, and the notes are shrill or the strings pop.
Success can be the Kiss Of Death stress or the Spice of life. The real issue is how to manage it.
See our Stress-Management screen and also those on Stress-Relief and Stress-Reduction on the links below. Bookmark or print for ease of use.