Sabotage-Stress Can Destroy Your Personal Addictions Recovery, Serenity, Abstinence, and Spirituality
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Unplug Personal Self Sabotage-Stress
Why do so many of our problems come from within?
Sabotage-Stress must go. Save Your Personal Addictions Recovery, Abstinence, and Sobriety.
To Unplug Sabotage-Stress you must recognize, SEE, what is actually happening and not what you “think” is going on. Have no False Assumptions.
What is sabotage?
Sabotage is any action, verbal or otherwise, by anyone, which discourages or deflects you from your planned personal addictions recovery goal. This includes you, yourself.
Of course, sabotage is often from others, family, friends, and sometimes strangers. Especially strangers who have something to gain or promote by keeping you as you are, few of us like change.
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On a their screens you’ll meet the SNUPS, Martians, and Drain People, they come in all flavors and textures, but, their motivations for sabotage often have a common basis.
We need to understand the why of sabotage.
Each of us likes to live in a safe, peaceful, familiar place we might call our comfort zone. Being able to predict the actions of the people in our sphere of operations makes us feel more comfortable.
So when others in our sphere see or hear that change is coming, their “comfort zone” can be experienced as under attack. An example might be simply your desire for weight loss.
In response to this threat they may say to you, “I don’t know why you need to lose weight. You look great to me.” They then have put their relationship with you on the line. Are you going to challenge them?
An overweight relative said to me, “My husband likes me the way I am.”
How can your diet effort overcome such support?
A very natural response to “comfort zone” attack is to try to counter the threat of change. This is often done in a conscious way, direct or indirect. But sometimes, the attack is more subtle with an unconscious approach.
“Aw, come on, just one more drink. The other folks are all having another.
Your response to Martian Sabotage-Stress should use your personal recovery tool of a considered, objective, non-angry response.
Martians operate from a self-centered viewpoint; yet, its basis may be, as with illusions, from fear, ignorance, or even a lack of care.
Perhaps, even from jealousy because you may have a sense of personal control or success. How many times are we “happy” someone else wins the lottery?Discover Serenity Life Practice.
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Developing a Deaf Ear to Self Personal Sabotage-Stress.
The Martians may certainly set your mind to working. “Maybe I should have one more. I do owe them.”
“She did cook dinner, just for me.”
As he says, “I did fail before.”
The excuses go on and on. If these are your thoughts, then you need to change them. You need to develop a Deaf Ear to Martian-Sabotage.
Your success at sobriety, abstinence, not gambling, weight loss, diet, or any other behavior change doesn’t have to affect anyone else. You are not really responsible for the feelings others have. They have to own those themselves.
How your healthy approach to life affects others is their problem. Don’t take it on, and don’t expect them to take on yours.
You can usually develop a Deaf Ear to verbal Sabotage-Stress attempts without alienating your family, friends, or colleagues. Certainly, some times it won’t be easy, and you’ll want to try to avoid the confrontation.
Few of us want to antagonize or to constantly challenge others.
But, on the other hand, if the Sabotage-Stress succeeds, then there is a good chance your personal addictions recovery or your weight reduction, diet program will not.
Worse yet, when you agree with Martians, but, your whole body and mind say no, you are generating the very Artificial Stress you want to eliminate from your life.
Your “self contained” anger just adds further stress and probably guilt to your problems. Recovery failure is certainly not far away. You must UNPLUG. And you must UNPLUG NOW.
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The SNUPs and Martians are not your real friends.
Redirect and Deflect Sabotage-Stress.
You want an assertive approach, supported by tough love, for deflecting the Martian arrows of sabotage-stress. And you can, with skill, probably stop the Martian sabotage without alienating them.
If you can’t, that is a bridge you’ll have to cross. But don’t cross it until you are there.
Let’s look at an assertive dieting example.
Your spouse or partner makes your work lunches.You want to have healthier food. Which would be better for your weight loss.
Without challenging the lunches made by the other person, you appreciate their efforts, however, to be more helpful, you offer to make your own lunches.
You are being both affirmative and personally responsible.
Certainly you want to share your knowledge, plan, and resolve with your family and significant others. But you want positive support for your personal addictions recovery not added stress from power struggles or food fights.
Be assertive and positive. Seek support, not attacks, while developing a “Deaf Ear” to Sabotage-Stress.
Let the Martians exert their control on someone else, somewhere else. Don’t make them your problem. Let-Go, Let-God. UNPLUG.
ARMED…Forewarned Is Forearmed.
In many, many social groups, consuming food and drink is the oil of interaction. So how are you to be armed for the avalanche of goodies? The temptations are incessant.
Eat breakfast for sure when dieting, and keep regular meal times, if at all possible. Eat before you go to the party. Or go somewhere else. Maintain your assertive resolve. Otherwise, you’ll be a ready victim of sabotage-stress.
A firm “no thanks” should be the only…and consistent…reply you need for all who want you to try their new drink or recipe.
And remember, expanding the “truth” to a sabotage pest is not only OK, it is to be encouraged. For example: “I have a medical condition.”…Well, for example, doesn’t being overweight certainly qualify?
A Martian can be a spouse who stocks the refrigerator with your favorite drinks and foods.
A Martians are our friends and relatives who says they support your sobriety, abstinence, or diet decision, but, as you see their behavior, advice, and critical remarks for what they are, you realize it is direct recovery sabotage.
When this happens, you will need your assertive resolve and a practiced ready reply.
It is not deceptive to say, “No thanks, I have a medical test in the morning.” You do.
When dieting that metal examiner…the scale, awaits. Patiently, for your weigh-in each day. And it is unforgiving.
Sabotage-Stress can destroy you personal addictions recovery attempts. You’ll want to take a close look at the Sabotage-Stress initiators.