Relationship-Addicts often feel worthless out of a relationship, so are fearful to leave even an abusive partner.

Relationship-Addicts turn relationship addiction into a way of life through multiple partners.

Those in addictive relationships develop a lifestyle out of being codependent.

Relationship-Addicts, often called love addicts, can find true personal relationships.

Relationship-Addicts select or often get involved with people who are addicted with compulsive behaviors. These compulsive addicts often require a support system to function. So, their “enablers” get to participate in the continuing alcoholic/drug/obsession drama.

Stimulating, but, destructive.

Intimate relationships usually start with strong emotional feeling. But, when codependence enters a chill descends and the relationship grows cold. The couple becomes “distant.”

They begin treating each other as objects, rather than as real people. Fearful is often a characteristic within the addictive relationship.

Letting go of an addictive relationship can be difficult. Repression begins, then manipulation of partners becomes the tactical way of relating. Passive aggressive behavior discolors all interactions. You’d think “Trouble in River City” says “I’m outa here.” But relationship addicted often stay on for the physical abuse to start, if it hasn’t already.

The early days of exciting sex dwindle, the depth of relationship wasn’t there to sustain it. Explore The Mind of The Addict..

Is There Hope For Relationship-Addicts?

Yes. Many paths and by-ways lead to addiction recovery and out of relationship addiction. Addicts need to find new and healthier approaches of relating to others.

Immediate stoppage of addiction by sheer force, for example, being in jail or hospitalized, isn’t usually successful recovery in the long run.

If nothing but the addictive behavior stops, the addiction will most likely break out again, often even stronger. There are better addiction recovery tools than forced stoppage.

Addiction is often a vicious circle.

First, the addictive behavior, then the feeling of shame and guilt mingles with a degree of fear. These feelings stimulate need for relief from the addictive substance or behavior. This brings back the guilt.

The addictive process is very similar across addictions and the addicted. Even love-addicts and their addictive drama activities are similar. It is part of how addiction works.

All relationships have their ups and downs. Short of therapy is there self help , things you can do which lead to self healing? Perhaps even repair your relationship?

Yes, and self help is more effective when both parties in a relationship fully participate.

Start your thinking, by stepping back, think of why you initially got together. Fell in love at first. Remind yourselves of the initial hopes the two of you had.

Self help can come in a variety of different styles.

Check out some relevant books for guidance and insight. We can learn from the success of others. There is one recommended relationship therapy which has had positive results. It is called Imago. Take a moment and review the approaches on the three links below. It will be worth your time.

Imago Therapy for Relationship-Addicts : Get the love you want.

Imago relationship therapy is an effective and safe approach to help partners grow and evolve their relationship together.

Relationship-Addicts who want to move from addictive behavior to true couple relations find it all depends upon how serious you are. The world works in strange and unusual ways.

Our casual conscience means that when you decide that something is really important to you, things and events seem to start happening.

New people show up in your sphere of contact and interesting books appear with helpful ideas.

But you have to make the decision first. And it must be a serious, explicit determination to make changes. A choice with real force behind it.

Soon solutions start to emerge. Different ones for different people. However, you must be open to new ideas and people. Open to new alternatives.

If you hold onto old agendas and expected outcomes it isn’t going to happen. Open-minded full commitment to change is required. You can Overcome Obsession and Dependence. Start Now.

Addiction Recovery requires firm choice, real commitment, and continuing action. You can do it.

Light your recovery candle:

My candle burns at both ends;

It will not last the night;

But ah, my foes, and oh, my friends

It gives such a lovely light.

You really can have a new true relationship. Relationships require our Letting go ancient attachments.

Eckhart Tolle “The Power Of NOW.”