We learn to speak to ourselves, self-talk, in the present. We relate the qualities we aspire to as if we already have them. We make them real. Now, not later.
We need to have a self-concept we can love and cherish. We want reconciliation of conflicting thoughts. Even if we have to resort to a different choice. We negotiate with ourselves for compromise to resolve regrets.
We like our self-concepts stable.
And though we try to change our conscious attitudes to justify, excuse, or explain contradictory behavior, our basic non-conscious processed thoughts and feelings are not easily remodeled.
Change is simply deeper, more complex than that.
We realize our opinions and judgments are influenced by non-conscious, subconscious, automatic brain/mind processing.
This action may override our conscious deliberations, reflective or not. Often we may not even have an awareness it has already happened in our non-conscious mental processing.
We learn consciously of subconscious decisions about a half a second after the brain/mind makes them.
Sometimes our addiction thinking can almost seem hardwired into our brain/mind. Addiction cravings, blind urges, and aggressive impulses are disasters waiting to happen.
To bring about awareness through incremental changes in our thinking and behavior we must first reinforce the desired and more reality oriented positive attitudes by being willing to examine and internally wrestle with our Addiction Recovery issues.
We must introduce a way to acknowledge our new position publicly, this can be a very strengthening action. Make a commitment. Get reinforcement and positive accountability.