Overcoming-Obsession-and-Dependence can make affection addiction relationships whole and satisfying.

Overcoming-Obsession-and-Dependence means addictive relationship recovery, not only first, but, long term.

Love addicts lack self-esteem, but you can build self-confidence with the following tools.

Overcoming-Obsession-and-Dependence starts now.

Suggestions: Lets start out by saying that recovering love addicts in addictive relationships have to work harder than most people to reclaim their self-esteem, and twice as hard to keep it.

It would be nice if once we felt good about ourselves we could maintain that feeling, but usually it doesn’t work out that way. Our love addiction is too strong.

Self-esteem can be elusive. One minute it’s there, and the next minute it seems to have vanished.

Lets also point out that while many of the following suggestions will help you build up your self-esteem by validating yourself, other recommendations will encourage you to utilize the validation of others to build up your self-esteem.

This may seem contradictory. Many people feel that we can love ourselves unconditionally from within and have no need for the love of others.

Overcoming-Obsession-and-Dependence also needs some outer validation.

We are only human, and no matter how strongly we believe in ourselves we need a little support.

What is important to remember, is that our own validation of ourselves, should come first, and it is more important than what others think of us.

In other words, you should build a strong foundation before you build a house.

Ovecoming-Obsession-and-Dependence is to discover the essence of Successful Relationships. .

Specific Self-Confidence actions to take starting now, for overcoming-obsession-and-dependence.

Adopt an attitude of self-acceptance or unconditional self-love. This means really understanding that you are a worthy person despite your shortcomings. This is a mind-set. This is self-confidence.

Once you have a general acceptance of your worth as a human being, spend some time focusing on your specific attributes. This enhances your self-worth. Addictive Relationships require real work to change. START NOW.

Find the power of Positive Thinking. There is nothing, but thinking makes it so.

As part of your new Positive-Thinking campaign, learn how to superimpose new information over your old negative tapes.

(Negative tapes are all the hurtful and inappropriate things people said about you while you were growing up.)

This is the best way to diminish inappropriate self-criticism which erodes self-esteem. Overcoming-Obsession-And-Dependence, means discovering your Relationship as a Spiritual Practice.

Overcoming-Obsession-and-Dependence: Reclaim your self-respect.

Self-Respect is the pride or satisfaction that comes from:

Self-discipline, Being responsible, Honoring your own value system. (By this is meant that if you value honesty you must be honest in order to feel good about yourself.)

Handling adversity well (Carl Jung said: “Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering.”)

Self-Respect, which is a kind of conditional love, does not necessarily contradict the notion that you should love yourself unconditionally.

Both concepts are important to maintain self-esteem. You must try to find the balance between loving yourself unconditionally and pushing yourself to do things that will engender self-respect.

Surround yourself, whenever possible, with people who affirm you (people who like you just the way you are).

Like it or not, your relationship with others can erode your self-esteem. So make a point of choosing your friends carefully.

See how addiction affects you and your relationship.

Overcoming-Obsession-and-Dependence is choosing your own companions.

You did not have a choice about this as a child, but as an adult, you are free to pick and choose your companions.

Consider reading books about self-esteem. This promotes self-awareness which is an important step in overcoming low self-esteem, the cause of obsession and dependence, in the first place.

(A helpful book is “Celebrating Yourself” by Dorothy Corkill Briggs.) Find it and study it.

Get to know yourself-who you are, your values, and needs. Learning to really like and love yourself takes time and effort. The rewards are independence and self-esteem.

You can do that with Susan Peabody‘s help. Her book “Addiction to Love“ which we reviewed here is a classic. It is published by Celestial Arts, Berkley. The Mind of The Addict knows Obsession and Dependence.

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