“Don’t eat at your regular times for a day or two, and if you find that it helps you get in touch with your hunger, try not eating at your regular times for a week or longer.” Consider Daily Meditations for OverEating.
“Men use sex the way women use food.
Diets don’t give you the option of eating frozen peas and mashed potatoes when you are lonely. Diets, based on caloric consumption, do not leave room for being lonely.
Or sad or angry or joyful. Diets exclude our psychological and emotional needs by assuming that we are going to feel the same way about ourselves, our relationships, our lives, on day one as on day six.
Diets exclude all feelings except for those of wanting to be thin. Diets remove from us one of the few characteristics that distinguish us from other animals. Our choices.”
Is Your Fat a Family Affair? Check It Out.
“I ate a piece of cake in front of God and everyone.”
the above comment is by a Roth “Breaking Free” workshop participant.
Roth ends the story: “When you lie, sneak, pretend to others, you lie, sneak, pretend to yourself.
When you tell yourself you are not worthy of eating in full view, you tell yourself you are not worthy of being seen and known in full view.
You send part of yourself under cover, the vulnerable, frail, and most human parts, the parts that reach out and connect with others.
You cut yourself off from what you want and need the most: empathy, intimacy, relationship.
You cut off the possibility of receiving your warm embrace. Except from a soggy cookie.
Compulsive Eating Groups estimate 50 to 95 percent of their lives is spent in wanting. Which means at least half their lives in shadows, wanting without living, and dying without living.”
Maybe Stress Reduction Will Help.
Awareness is the crux of Breaking Free
You Break Free from compulsive behavior, “because as soon as you are aware that you are compulsive, you’re no longer being compulsive…
Awareness is attention that observes what you are doing without pushing you in a particular direction.
Awareness is a voice that just notices. Just notices.
We don’t need tricks to help us lose weight. We don’t need diets of specific foods. Awareness is the process of joining yourself, of keeping yourself company while you live.
Compulsive behavior is marked by an awful absence of self. It is as if you had left town.
Awareness is marked by the steady unobtrusive presence of self. It is precisely that difference which changes the entire nature of compulsive behavior.
Awareness brings perspective to an otherwise unbearably smack-up-against-it situation.