Feeding-Hungry-Hearts requires finding your real personal non-food satisfactions.
Feeding-Hungry-Hearts can change and recover successfully.
Why we call our weight loss and dieting approach Feeding-Hungry-Hearts.
Feeding-Hungry-Hearts answer is that very few weight loss or dieting efforts show long term success. Food and fat just creeps back.
We all really know this weight loss fact to be true. My hungry heart often chooses food over love.
Hunger is deeply personal…it is the unanswered side of our dreams; it is born of the need for completion, fulfillment and serenity.
As Geneen Roth explains in her book which we review here: Feeding The Hungry Heart is our experience of compulsive eating.
But, we can overcome the emotional hungers which lie behind our secret food binges.
Our compulsion speaks in our individual personal language based on the unique ways our different hungers drive us. That is whether our hunger is grounded in frustrated relationships or unexpressed feelings.
We trade eating, drinking, drugs, tobacco, sex, gambling and a number of other behaviors for love. For many of us food does equal love. We truly have found nourishment for our hungry hearts.
Taking care of ourselves is our first responsibility. Self care is self respect.
Start giving yourself what you need in ways other than food. It will not happen forcefully or with pressure; the process is natural, evolving as your self-concept changes. As you see self responsibility as self care.
Part of the process of un-convoluting your body image is realizing that your intrinsic value as a human being is not related to your extrinsic body weight, regardless of what the media tells you.
You can be fat and sensitive, creative and competent. Fat has little to do with intelligence or vitality.
How do you know where self acceptance will take you if you've never allowed yourself to feel it.
Change is a natural result of awareness.
Food on a physical level is nourishment, but, on an emotional level it is not. We need emotional nourishment instead of trying to satisfy our hungry hearts with food.
Breaking free, as Roth says, is about realizing that other people’s opinions of, and projections onto our bodies has little to do with our bodies; they have to do with these people, their preferences, and their values, not yours.
Breaking free: We want to change in order to love ourselves, but we’ve got to love ourselves in order to change.
Happiness is difficult to find in ourselves, and impossible to find anywhere else.
Geneen Roth is my hero, she tells it like it is, not everyone does.
Geneen Roth closes her excellent work with this marvelous thought:
“In the moment between wakefulness and dreams, a question occurs to me: Could it be that happiness comes in moments…yellow-eyed cats, childhood smells, the glisten of moonlight, the clink of chimes?
Could it be that I am already happy, that I have been happy all these years without knowing it, but that happiness passes, rises and falls, goes away and comes back?
I wake up content, and work while the day passes from amber to pale lilac afternoon."