A Sober Life lived in sobriety means embracing a non-drinking abstinent self. We are powerless to change the past. And many of us are powerless over alcohol and our lives unmanageable. Abstinence is our best tool.
When we try to control, what can not be controlled, we condemn ourselves to feel that life is unmanageable. If we focus our success, our love, and our energy on control we will be constantly frustrated. Life will be unmanageable.
When we feel we can control the world around us, we become responsible for this world. We take on responsibility for the actions of others. Then things go different than expected. We feel guilty.
The center of your inner wisdom is your problem solving self. It is a direct channel to your alcohol addiction recovery. Really, you know you can’t drink yourself sober. Lean to let go.
Our recovered selves accept, not judge. To accept ourselves means to know ourselves. No more hiding or pretending, only self knowledge and acceptance.
Abstinent living is based on allowing ourselves “to be,” and “to experience.” This means allowing our spontaneity, our curiosity, and allowing our “being” without the compulsion “to do.”
Getting dry and straight is the first step.
Abstinent Living says that “to be is to love.” We allow ourselves to experience without the need to control.
Our addiction recovery power over alcohol lies in how we define our life. Too often, we choose to be a victim.
Self-forgiveness could mean successful Alcohol Addiction Recovery.
Forgiveness means making space within---for us to go on with our lives--- and not to be consumed by the actions of another. We focus on our Abstinence Living.
We need to judge ourselves less, and accept ourselves more, to be able to do this with others. Our reactions to others are but a mirror of our feelings about ourselves.
We need responsibility without guilt. Guilt focuses all of our energy on ourselves. We can learn detachment. Letting go.
Detachment is a realization that we can not control others nor do we have to be controlled by others. Learning detachment is one of the great secrets of a happy life.
Learning Detachment: Letting Go.
Detachment: Letting Go is to finally realize we can not control others, nor do we have to let them control us. This is the happy sober life secret.
This is the Zen of Living.
We feel, but we do not need to react, and therefore to be controlled by the events.
This detachment: This letting go, is the foundation of addiction-self-help.
We are often too quick to react and condemn that we do not take the time to see other’s acts for what they are, a manifestation of themselves, and not a comment on us.
To achieve detachment---letting go---in some ways means not to see ourselves as important and central to the events which surround us. That is detachment.
Others’ thoughtless acts do not have to hurt us. If we over-react and judge them, we rescue them. And thereby deny their taking responsibility for their acts. We deny ourselves the power to protect ourselves.
Free yourself to be fully in the moment. No longer a victim.
We use daily recovery affirmations and practice daily self-acceptance. We learn to live in the present.
We wear the world as a loose garment.
Meditation on Living is along our road to alcohol addiction recovery.
We become addicted seeking fulfillment from outside in, rather than from inside out. If we reconnect with our deeper values we can be inner directed in an outer directed world. We can be in, but, not of, as the masters say.
I own the power I have to see what is available for me in the world. I own what I want. I follow my personal spiritual path.
The Serenity Prayer is a guide for transmuting ourselves from fearful, limited, addicted beings into radiant recovered alcohol addicts who have become human. Discover The Ultimate Letting Go.