Relationship-Addicts often feel worthless out of a relationship, so are fearful to leave even an abusive partner.
Relationship-Addicts turn relationship addiction into a way of life through multiple partners.
Those in addictive relationships develop a lifestyle out of being codependent.
Relationship-Addicts, often called love addicts, can find true personal relationships.
Relationship-Addicts select or often get involved with people who are addicted with compulsive behaviors. These compulsive addicts often require a support system to function. So, their “enablers” get to participate in the continuing alcoholic/drug/obsession drama.
Stimulating, but, destructive.
Intimate relationships usually start with strong emotional feeling. But, when codependence enters a chill descends and the relationship grows cold. The couple becomes “distant.”
They begin treating each other as objects, rather than as real people. Fearful is often a characteristic within the addictive relationship.
Letting go of an addictive relationship can be difficult. Repression begins, then manipulation of partners becomes the tactical way of relating. Passive aggressive behavior discolors all interactions. You’d think “Trouble in River City” says “I’m outa here.” But relationship addicted often stay on for the physical abuse to start, if it hasn’t already.
Yes. Many paths and by-ways lead to addiction recovery and out of relationship addiction. Addicts need to find new and healthier approaches of relating to others.
Immediate stoppage of addiction by sheer force, for example, being in jail or hospitalized, isn’t usually successful recovery in the long run.
If nothing but the addictive behavior stops, the addiction will most likely break out again, often even stronger. There are better addiction recovery tools than forced stoppage.
Addiction is often a vicious circle.
First, the addictive behavior, then the feeling of shame and guilt mingles with a degree of fear. These feelings stimulate need for relief from the addictive substance or behavior. This brings back the guilt.
The addictive process is very similar across addictions and the addicted. Even love-addicts and their addictive drama activities are similar. It is part of how addiction works.
All relationships have their ups and downs. Short of therapy is there self help , things you can do which lead to self healing? Perhaps even repair your relationship?
Yes, and self help is more effective when both parties in a relationship fully participate.
Start your thinking, by stepping back, think of why you initially got together. Fell in love at first. Remind yourselves of the initial hopes the two of you had.
Self help can come in a variety of different styles.
Check out some relevant books for guidance and insight. We can learn from the success of others. There is one recommended relationship therapy which has had positive results. It is called Imago. Take a moment and review the approaches on the three links below. It will be worth your time.