Love-Addiction boundaries are often arbitrary.

Love-Addiction requires mindful awareness.



We can rebuild our love-addiction boundaries.

Love-Addiction reviews the boundaries of “Getting Free" and “Heal Thy Self.”

Boundaries usually mean a “dividing line.” Often an arbitrary line between two things. But isn’t a boundary also a meeting place. A place where we come together?

When we walk along the sandy beach, are we only on the land? What about the water underneath our feet? Where does the land ends? The water begin?

The shoreline is constantly in motion. Fluid. Non-fixed. Enfolded in one another. Good personal relationships are like that. Had to tell where one begins and the other leaves off.

Yet all too often hard, impenetrable relationship borders divide, shaping our most intimate interactions. Particularly true with sex and love-addition.

Hard to determine whether it is sex and love-addiction or simply addiction to love. Real Affection means Setting Relationship Boundaries.

Rebuilding love-addiction relationship boundaries means working with our boundary-making mind.

When we look closely into our lives, we see we are made up of thousands of “non-self” elements. Such things as water, earth, and air. The same constituents make up the ocean and sky, even the sun.

All part of our common embodied heritage. It is easy to forget our real human condition in the heat of a moment.We must begin to befriend ourselves.

Mindfulness is an act of personal hospitality. It is a way of learning to treat ourselves with kindness and care. It slowly percolates in the deepest recesses of our being. Gradually “others” are added.

We begin to realize that our life is just a lease. We have set up a little shop where we barely make a living sewing patches on torn clothing.

Yet only a few feet underneath are two veins of pure bright gold. We need a pick-axe.

What does the patch-sewing mean you ask. Eating and drinking. The heavy cloak of the body is always getting torn.

Trying to fill our emptiness with meaning from outside ourselves is like pouring water into the ocean to make it wet.

We patch it with food and drink, and other restless ego-satisfactions. Anything to lessen our existential anguish.

But, if you rip up one board from the shop floor and look into your basement. You’ll see two glints in the dirt. Pure gold.

We need a new venue. A Mindful Awareness Pick Axe. Meditation.


Love-Addiction requires Mindful Meditation.

Mindful Awareness offers real insight into relationship boundaries.

In Mindful Awareness we are led deeper into who and what we are. We look at our relationship. And we experience some treatment surprises.

The heart-mind is a vast, fence-less field, full of the unexpected. In our mindful meditation we allow our field of awareness to expand so as to become aware of the arising thoughts.

We allow all, holding onto none.

In our meditation, sitting, aware. Noticing the thoughts rising and passing away. In our boundary practice we learn to embrace the unexpected, the unwanted.

See if you can live for a few moments or minutes with things exactly as they are. Be fully present in this moment. Discover the making of Addictive relationships.

Mindfulness is Revealing and it is Healing

Although the wind

Blows terribly here,

The moonlight also leaks

Between the roof planks

Of this ruined house.

IZUMI SHIKIBU

The Ink Dark Moon


Addictive Involvements can mean Letting go.


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An Addictive Relationship may require Letting Go Co Dependence.


Mindful Awareness is developed by focused meditation.