Let-Go Tools are effective. And they can be learned.
Letting Go and opening your mindfulness, over and over, develops your Let-Go muscles.
Develop your Unplugging Tools and flex them in everyday life, in small ways.
Your Let-Go Tools exercise your freedom. They open you to new experiences, both people and ideas.
Nikos Kazantzakis in Zorba The Greek says,
“Life is terrible, only death is not. To be alive is to undo your belt and look for trouble…A man needs a little madness, or else he never dares cut the rope and be free.”
So Be It.
There are lots of opportunities to practice the let-go tools you’ll learn here.
There is letting go in love, of anger, of being a victim, of chaos, of confusion, of denial, fear, fear of abandonment, guilt, of need to control, of illusions, perfection, resistance, self doubt, criticism, shame, worry, and codependency.
Plenty of opportunities to use your Let-Go Tools in your Addiction Recovery Process.
Letting Go is a spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical process, a sometimes mysterious metaphysical process of releasing to the universe that which we are clinging to so tightly.”
Unplugging Tools should be part of our everyday activities.
We can learn to use Let-Go Tools to release our grasp on people, outcomes, ideas, feelings, wants, needs, desires, ---everything.
We can let-go of trying to control our “progress” in our addiction recovery.
Letting Go is our faith in action.
It says to the universe, send me what you will, what I’m meant to have.
We follow Louisa May Alcott: “I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship.”
* The first Let-Go Tools we must learn is separation, and it is probably the hardest to accept. To just go “cold turkey.”
You have to admit you are no longer Romeo or Juliet involved in some romantic story. You are suffering the withdrawal pain of stopping an addictive behavior.
Letting Go enables us to meet the inevitable on equal footing.
* A sixth Detaching Tool is the realization that willpower is useful for only certain things. Trying to recover from the repetitions and compulsions of addiction by sheer force of will is analogous to trying to pound a nail with a saw.
Saws are right for some things, not for others. You need to use as complete a set of recovery tools as you have access to.
Willpower is useful for affecting our behavior, perhaps, in setting and maintaining our boundaries. But, it is absolutely ineffectual when it comes to influencing someone else’s feelings or personal world.
And it doesn’t work with the weather either. So let it be.
Recovery is affected most by our willingness to explore what is really under human control. And, in addition, to accept that much of the universe lies forever outside our ability to influence it by force of will.
Realize that most human emotions also fall outside your range of control. Just respond honestly to your feeling from one moment to the next. Respond with healthy, appropriate behavior. Not compulsive, addictive responses.
Detach yourself from struggles which exist because of painful or willful efforts to control those things which are beyond your power to control.
If you want success, double your failure rate.
Thomas Watson IBM
* The seventh Unplugging Tool is the expectation to turn defeat into surrender and convert blind willpower into open willingness and acceptance.
Self worth isn’t something that has to be earned through accomplishment or through a relationship with others. Your non-conceptual self needs no improvement. Just Be.
Do not invest your self-esteem in some other person’s behavior.
It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is impossible to find it elsewhere. Agnes Repplier
Your life is no ones responsibility, except your own. Your addiction recovery is the same. We are responsible for our behavior. Realize the unrealistic values and beliefs which support your addictive behavior.