Is-fat-a-family-affair ? Judi Hollis, Ph.D. says yes, it is living a lie.
Is-Fat-A-Family-Affair: Hollis' book "Fat Is A family Affair" may help us let fat go, so we’ve reviewed it.
To let go seeking solace and satisfactions in food will mean we will have to grow up.
Growing up means we will have to change our addictive relationship with food.
Saying No to Food can mean Yes to Life.
Is-Fat-A-Family-Affair makes a good question for all of us overweight and obese folks to ask themselves.
Because, as we grow up we get so many things from our family environment. In addition to the genes transfer, we learn how to live in the world.
We acquire many of our habits, interpersonal skills, and coping behaviors. We learn to like one thing and dislike another. Food choices, preferences, and portions are passed on to us.
Is-fat-a-family-affair? Well, research indicates that if one parent is overweight or obese, there is a good chance the offspring will be too. If both parents are obese or overweight, the odds are almost certain the offspring will be likewise.
“Fat-is-a -family-affair” as Judi Hollis explains, “because we’ve been living with a dishonest person (ourselves) who sought to survive by living a lie.
To win love and admiration, we acquired an “As If” personality, becoming what others needed and losing our sense of inner self.” I call it being the hollow man.
“And when that true person cried out to be heard, we drowned it out with food.”
Recovery from an Eating Disorder requires a sincere journey to find the real self.
“Most of us are unable to find the way on our own because we wear blinders when forks loom up in the path. It is easier to trudge the well beaten, painful path than to risk the unknown.”
The habits, bias, and outright prejudices, “I don’t eat shellfish, daddy always said, they aren’t meant to be eaten!” is an example of our family learned choices and the reasons for them. We have thousands. And often proud of them.
Of course, family helps us stay fat, as long as we keep the faith, and… Keep Eating. As long as we ignore our Hungry Heart’s message: