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Sound Hockey? Well it isn’t. You can do it. In fact, you and only you can do it.
Life is not a problem to be solved, but, reality to be experienced. Soren Kierkegaard.
The problem is that it is simple to change your thoughts, but not easy. There’s the rub. Addiction behaviors, like all habits can be hard to break. It takes courage and effort. And a plan.
The problem which we experience in breaking a habit is that the sacrifices are immediate, while the rewards, the benefits come later. We have to postpone gratification. Tough work for some. But we can learn to delay satisfactions.
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For Goal-Setting think of your mind as a garden. What will you plant in it? Which new sobriety habit will you grow? Which serenity thoughts do you want to arise naturally and become perennials?
In your mental garden plant healthy thoughts, help them grow, and watch them bloom. Don’t let addictive weeds crowd out your recovery. Beautiful gardens require daily attention.
Goal-Setting for your mental garden can help your mindscape and self concept with acceptance of your recovery plan.
Goal-Setting means planning the process for changing your view of the world.
This can be either in terms of your mindscapes structure or the cognitive maps you use to perceive and process the world, your process of thinking which built your current mindset. How you see, experience, and react to the kind of world you perceive.
A Must In Planning: Your Activities Of daily Living.
Eric Fromm, the psychologist, stresses: “The practice of faith and courage begins with the small details of daily life.” Obviously then, daily habits are a place to start on our road to personal recovery from addictions.
What we do with our minds affects how our brains work. So, we are going to approach refocusing our thoughts, and in the process, actually change how our brains work.
Our Goal-Setting should include learning how we plan to train ourselves to direct our minds to work in a wholesome and healthy manner.
We can learn to have what is called, mindfulness. You will be able to observe your inner experience calmly, clearly, and without responding to it.
This objective observer behavior on our part will also allow us to see at the Third Level, beyond illusions.
We will be able to redirect our attention. In practice, if you want to change how you feel you have to do good non-addictive things, if you focus your attention on doing positive things, your feelings will naturally follow.
Action stimulates feeling. Try smiling right now. Get up and dance a little jig. You’ll feel better. That’s how the body/brain works.
The canary doesn’t sing because it’s happy. The canary is happy because it sings.
You’re not trying to change the world, you’re just trying to change how you feel and act. Yes, it takes mindfulness. Yes, it takes mental and sometimes, physical courage.