Eating-Addiction is an attempt to satisfy an emotional itch with food.
Many of us are obsessed with pleasuring ourselves, satisfying that emotional itch, with every conceivable object, thing or activity possible.
Alcohol, tobacco, food, sex, porn, in fact, any activity, spending, shopping, gambling, and of course, acquiring all kinds of adult toys and stuff. Have we got stuff.
Roth explains it so well: “Eating is a metaphor for the way we live; it is also a metaphor for the way we love.
Excessive fantasizing, creating drama, the need to control, and wanting what is forbidden are behaviors that block us from finding joy in food or relationships.”
We can break free of eating-addiction. To do so we must “Be Here Now.” Ram Dass could show us how. Of course, we do this by learning to live in the present moment.
We learn to value ourselves, Here and Now.
And , perhaps most of all, we let our hungry hearts give voice to our real hunger.
Then teaching and allowing ourselves to receive pleasure without guilt. We can give up our sin eating. We can enable ourselves to be intimate with another person. Here and Now.
Roth explains: “Compulsion is despair on the emotional level. The substances, people, or activities that we become compulsive about are those we believe capable of taking our despair away.” Is Your Fat a Family Affair?
Roth: “I felt it as a child. I didn’t have a name for it then. It was the feeling I carried inside my body that I (my world, my control) was about to rip apart and there was nothing I could do about it.” Diet Sabotage can undermine your best efforts.
Our Compulsive Eating-Addiction is despair on the emotional level.
Geneen Roth says it so well: “Compulsion is the feeling that there is no one home. We become compulsive to put some one home.
We didn’t want to become compulsive about anything. We did it to survive. We did it to keep from going crazy. Good for us.
Food was our love; eating was our way of being loved. Food became the closest thing we knew of love.
But it is only a substitute for love. Food is not, nor was it ever love…”
Love is the willingness and ability to be affected by another human being and to allow that effect to make a difference in what you do, say, and become.
But, we can change. Our compulsion responds to every bit of work we do on ourselves. And it matters. Every time we choose love, it matters.
“As long as you eat compulsively,” Roth proposes, “Your life is about what you eat, how much you eat, and how much you weigh, and what you will look like, be like , when you stop eating compulsively.”
Your pain seems to be about food, willpower, and looking a certain way. But your pain is not about what it seems to be about. And if you don’t know what your pain is about, you can’t release yourself from it.
With you and me, when we decide the time is now. A victim is someone who has no choices. We have choices. We were not responsible for the past. That was someone else’s watch. Let your inner child have some rest. Let go of your parent’s past.
Change is frightening, even while it is empowering us.
Breaking Free teaches us our body is good, our instincts are wise, we have many choices, we can rely on ourselves for the information we need to live courageously, lovingly.
We can be strong in our broken places.
When we are present with the root of our fear, we stop being afraid. We act fully in the present moment. Our awareness of life as it is, not as we wish it to be. That is what being alive is about.