ACoAs Who Beat Alcohol,

by Gene R.
(Alaska)


ACoAs Who Beat Alcohol,


Hear how Stanton Peele and Archie Brodsky explain it in this short review of their book. “The Truth About Addiction and Recovery.”

Not only are children of alcoholics not doomed to be alcoholics themselves, but several studies have shown that children of alcoholics who have developed a drinking problem do better at moderating their drinking (when that is the goal of treatment) than other problem drinkers.

It seems as if childhood problems often strengthen a person’s resilience and independence. Yet today we undermine such resilience by telling the person that those problems are permanently disabling.

As one woman, a moderate drinker, remarked when she received some information about children of alcoholics.

“It Would have been helpful as a child to know that my father’s behavior when he was drinking was not normal. It wouldn’t have helped me to hear that I was likely to become an alcoholic myself.”

It is in families and groups with the greatest social dysfunction where crime and open alcoholism are most rampant and positive social values most lacking that alcoholism IS likely to be passed on from parent to child.

Alcoholism is most frequently transmitted in ghetto and economically disadvantaged households and those disrupted by divorce and child abuse, where children have the fewest opportunities to escape the social and economic pressures that dominate their parents’ lives.

Most people who join Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACoA) groups, on the other hand, lead stable lives themselves and may have had a parent who was a “functioning” alcoholic.

Indeed, the growth of the “Children of Alcoholics” movement, whose members are mostly women with alcoholic or heavy drinking fathers, who are not alcoholics themselves, is testimony to just how many people refuse to become alcoholics merely because their parents were.

In addition to Peele’s book.

May we suggest: “The New Codependency” by Melody Battle. If you want Real help with the issues of drinking to excess, these two volumes.

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Gene R.

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